Does Graceless Abound?

The Transformed Wife’s post today was called Does God’s Grace Allow Me to Sin?  Here are the first two paragraphs:

Some women have told me that I don’t show enough grace in my posts. I focus too much on teaching women how they are to live their lives: be sober, love and obey (and submit to) their husbands, love their children, be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, and good so that “the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:4, 5). I teach women to not teach men nor be in authority over them and to be silent in the churches (1 Timothy 2:11, 12). If they have a question, ask their husbands at home since it is shameful for them to speak in the church (1 Corinthians 14:34, 35). I teach them to be modest, shamefaced, have meek and quiet spirits, and if they are married to husbands who don’t obey the word, then win them “without the word” (1 Peter 3:1) by their godly behavior.

Many women don’t like being taught these things and being told what to do, even Christian women. They cry, “Where is the grace?” and “You are judgmental!” Grace doesn’t give us the license to sin. “What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?” (Romans 6:1,2).

It’s not like I have a problem with any of these verses.  What I’ve started to notice, and what I don’t like, is that in this particular kind of Biblical womanhood, these verses are taught exclusively.

The Bible is a ginormous book.

So you’re telling me that in great God’s goodness, love, and generosity to women, He took this mammoth piece of written work, and gifted us with four to five verses that are special–just for us.

And those are it?

These verses are terrifying when they’re taught by themselves.  That, I think, is one reason women think this Biblical womanhood lacks grace.  It’s not courageous, strong, or faithful to take something that terrifying, that cut-off, that exclusive and excluded, and then never acknowledge or be able to understand anyone else’s fear or discomfort.

That’s graceless.

But it’s not even that.

And I don’t know where to go from here.

I honestly have no idea where I’d even start to tell another person about Jesus.

One thought on “Does Graceless Abound?

  1. For me the clue is in the title: transformed and wife.

    The God I know doesn’t see things that way. That way of seeing things – for me – is divisive and self-serving. My focus is on how much I have “transformed” or have become a “wife” worthy of the label. And all of that has to be judged/assessed against others around me or in a book or a blog or a congregation or a denomination.

    And all of that is insular.

    And that is not “biblical”.

    Perhaps. 🙂

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