on Christ’s church


I want to be gracious, humble, and lowly, but I still find myself with so much anger inside me. I don’t know why I care about this topic so much, and why over the past several years, the way women are talked about in front of men has really started to bug me.

I do understand it was a room full of men, so the speaker presented for that particular audience. Yes, of course, the order of creation, and every diagram you see lists the word “woman” underneath the word “man”.  Yes, the man is the head of the wife, and the woman was created to be the man’s helper. He said that helper there is someone who “comes alongside” and that it definitely does not mean slave, and that yes, the husband, too, can do the dishes–but wait. Who just tied the word “helper” with dishes?

(I know. I know. We’re never happy.)

Over and over about head, helper, head, helper, and actually it was more like


Yes, the women are at times to remain silent.

(And never once did I raise my hand or say a word).

But Christ is the head, and we are the body of Christ, correct?

It seems like there are a ton of body verses in here.

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it,  so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.
~1 Corinthians 12:21-27~

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.”
~Ephesians 4:14~

And last, but not least–

“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

He said women often pull this passage out saying, “But see, look, we’re all supposed to be submitting to each other.” According to him that’s not what it means. He said it’s like Paul here is saying, “Attention everybody…Get. in. your. spot!” He is calling them to order…

 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

To affirm a comment that came from the audience, the man, he believes, has the higher calling in marriage. He is called to die. She, however, is only called to submit.

(Wow, I feel so much better now, thanks.)

Look, I’m thankful. I really really am.

I don’t want to be sarcastic, bitter-toned, or disrespectful.

I’m really not mad.

I’m really NOT mad.

But where, O where, is the woman’s glory?

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,  and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
~Ephesians 5:21-32~

I know, I know.

It’s found in His.

2 thoughts on “on Christ’s church

  1. Dear Rebekah – I know why I stay mad.

    Because this “loving” biblically correct “pecking order” is pure religiosity at its worst (or best). Because if one scours the bible and lifts the right verses any point of view can come back “biblically correct” (but has to ignore many more in the process). Because “the greatest of these” is a little too close to home (and far too simple and lacking any mystery). Because being qualified in God (because God is “mystery”) is an invention of control and correctness. Because biblical correctness is passed down through each generation of the qualified (in order to be qualified). Because Love only comes with conditions in biblically correct circles. Because Love is no longer Love but “love” with rules which has great convenience (and which is not “the greatest of these” at all). And because on top of all of that we use “we are but sinners saved” as a get-out clause for so much – not least to maintain the cultural and institutional “status quo”.

    I know I know.

    Love should be weak and compliant.

    But Love is the greatest of these because Love is greater-stronger-tougher than fear-death-correctness.


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