when men and women leave their God

I would like to take some time to respectfully disagree with and respond to a blog post I read earlier this morning. The blog was titled, “When Women Leave Their God-Ordained Role”, published on The Transformed Wife blog. For the sake of clarity I will republish the entire linked blog post here.


When Women Leave Their God-Ordained Roles

God didn’t give men high sex drives so they could watch porn and masturbate, commit fornication with multiple women, or delve into homosexuality and pedophilia. No, God gave men high sex drives so they would want to marry and be fruitful and multiply. Many women will bemoan the fact that there are no good men left because they have all gone astray, therefore, there isn’t anyone for them to marry. The problem stems from feminism. When women stopped being feminine and doing what God calls them to do, men stopped being masculine and doing what God calls them to do.

One woman asked this on my Instagram yesterday: “I still feel like I don’t fully understand though. Is marriage the only reason why men are given a higher sex drive? Or is it just simply part of their nature?”

A man responded to her: “It’s both. It’s our nature to have the higher sex drive. God gave us marriage so we can take that energy and channel it into being fruitful and multiplying. Without marriage and with birth control, our sex drive very quickly leads to degeneracy and hedonism.”

Another man responded to her: “No, it’s not the only reason, but we are made to procreate. Marriage is a healthy way to express procreation with a strong family unit. Higher sex drive is also what allows men to work longer hours and gives us the drive to invent and create things that we have in this world today.”

Feminism taught women to hold off getting married and pursue higher education and careers instead. Essentially, they were told to become men. In order to do this, they were taught that they must become liberated with your bodies and enjoy sex outside of marriage (fornication) by using birth control. THIS was and is the feminist message that young women hear! What happens when most of the young women decide to delay marriage, sleep around, and use birth control? Men no longer have a healthy sexual outlet in marriage and instead find sexually available women to meet their sexual needs or resort to porn or other sinful activities.

When women left their God ordained role, men left theirs. When women because immodest and promiscuous, men stopped having the goal of getting married and having children. And culture is being destroyed while everyone suffers. Women weren’t created for men’s roles and men weren’t created for women’s roles. It’s as simple as that. When women want to become men, chaos ensues. Chaos will always ensue when God’s will is ignored.

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
1 Timothy 5:14


My Response

The author of The Transformed Wife blog is an experienced wife, mother, and grandmother who seeks to lead younger women in the way of Biblical womanhood. The mentoring model, of older women teaching younger women, is a Biblical model and can be found in the Pauline Epistle of Titus:

“You, however, must teach what is appropriate to sound doctrine. Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance.

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,  to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”
~Titus 2:1-5~

When we read the Bible, it is important to understand that the Bible isn’t simply a collection of sayings and stories and teachings. As Christians we confess that the men who wrote the Bible were not writing out of their own power, whims, or strength, but were inspired by the Holy Spirit. We might go so far as to believe that every Biblical author would agree with John, who towards the end of his gospel briefly mentions all the things he had not written down, and then says, “But these are written so that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in His name (John 20:21).” The Biblical accounts point us to Jesus.

In that manner, any teaching of Biblical womanhood will always be one of a Christ-centered new life, not a woman-centered womanhood. As Christians we confess that we are by nature sinful and unclean, and have sinned against God in thought, word, and deed, both by what we have done, and by what we have left undone. Not only is our human nature fallen, but we as individuals are responsible for the sins we commit. A woman cannot save herself from her sins, and neither can she save a man from his. If a man is caught up in the sins of sexual immorality or the myriad of other sins, he is responsible before God, and no one else. If a woman is caught up in the sins of sexual immorality or the myriad of other sins, she is responsible before God for those sins, and nobody else. This is where Jesus comes in.

These Covid days have shown us what happens when we focus too much on only one of the myriad of problems we face as a human race. Our entire society has changed, shifted, and adjusted itself over a virus, something none of us could’ve ever forseen, and I don’t think any of us would agree it’s for the better. The masks. The restrictions. The shut-downs. The isolation. In the same way, when we adjust our historic Christian beliefs, theology, teachings, and lifestyles on the account of a single isolated verse, or when we zero in on feminism or any other “ism” as the sole source of mankind’s problems, we create more problems. Here as well is where Jesus comes in.

Jesus, God’s son, calls sinners to repentance for the purpose that our relationship to God the Father might be restored, so that all that has been broken by sin can be redeemed and made whole. On the cross of Jesus our sins are forgiven, our hearts are made new, our lives are reshaped from a self-centered starting point to a cruciform beginning, and our relationship to God is healed. God does not call women into His Kingdom to send His daughters back out to fight in the cultural wars. He is not asking us to die on our swords or become martyrs in our homes. He’s not asking us to lose ourselves, all hope and joy included, for the sake of loving our husbands and children. Rather, we are called by God–we are loved by God–and in His love we are stilled to love God and others. The “isms” we’ll have to deal with for a while, but only for a while, as Jesus is forever our hope and joy.

I don’t know why men were given high sex drives, or even if making such statements, while seemingly true enough in many cases, is even helpful content for us to ponder and discuss in as much depth as we do at times. As women we are told, and it is true, that we cannot look to a man to be the one to fulfill our every emotional need, but instead, we look to God. A man cannot have sex with God, but God does very much care about him. Without dismissing the damage or denying the existence of human pain and world problems, the love of Jesus is stronger than these. God’s salvation is for us, and His voice is always one of calling sons and daughters home.

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